Monday, September 27, 2010

Comedy, Sex, Tragedy, Sex, Sex, Sex...Love?

While watching "The Graduate," I remember jotting down a few lines and one of them was when Mrs. Robinson manipulates Ben into having sex with her by calling him "inadequate."
Men do not want their masculinity to be challenged. They do not want women to take away their whole aura of creation. A man's wholeness ( at least in sex comedies) is based on his masculine ability to be a king in bed!

Tamar Jeffer McDonald writes, "The sex comedy pits woman against man in an elemental battle of wits, in which the goal of both is sex. Only the timing and legitimacy of this differs from gender to gender, with women wanting sex after, and men before or without, marriage" ( McDonald 38). I mean this might be comical when reading about or watching in a movie theatre, and we might all consider it to be predictable and cheesy, but isn't our real life based on this sex comedy genre? I mean most of you might be nodding right now. Women, from all your personal experiences along with those of your friends, doesn't the sex comedy contain characteristics similar to real life relationships? A woman dates a man. Man thinks woman is good looking. Woman digs the man. Man wants to hit a home run. Woman feels offended. Woman is horny. Woman needs to be pure. Man needs sex. Woman moves on. Man decides to settle, because it is "time."

Women dream about the idea of finding their one true love. Men come to terms with themselves and realize that if they don't hold on to one of those pretty girls that is really interested in him, he might be getting too old to play the field. Both men and women are constructed- by family and society- to grow up, be polite, find a job, look approachable, fall in love and produce offspring. Along this set of steps, men might only unconciously desire one of the above, and that is to have a child as well. I strongly believe that all men want to create something from their genes. The single difference amongst the only similarity between men and women is that women mature faster than men, therefore as women are ready for sex and children at a younger age, men are only ready for sex!


McDonald, Tamar Jeffers. Romantic Comedy: Boy Meets Girl Meets Genre. London: Wallflower Press, 2007. Print.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Cat On A Hot Tin Roof Group Presentation

We were thinking of how to present our project without going into details about each character. The obvious was presented in the text and we tried to demonstrate the hidden emotions and predicaments between characters. Stephanie came up with the idea of Jerry Springer and we took it from there. We brainstormed a few catchy phrases as well as a few dilemmas that would lead to the audience's engagement in our topic.

I was the host and I began by asking Brick about his alcoholism and the death of his friend, Skipper. Than I invited Maggie to further clarify Brick's emotional state and her role as his wife. As Big Daddy, Big Mama, and Mae walked in there were a ramble of truths being thrown out for the crowd to take in.

The feedback we got from the classroom was great. They were responsive to our dialogue. I also believe we all fed off of each-other's enthusiasm in acting. Everyone brought out the best of their character. Overall the presentation and group effort prior to our presentation was smooth and insightful. I definitely think we would be a great cast for a theatre production! I enjoyed working with you all!

Monday, September 20, 2010

Ethnography:

Preface: A wedding I participated in. The newly weds were friends of my boyfriend's family. The people I'm observing are strangers.
Culture: Persian
Place: Roosevelt Hotel
Time: 10:00 PM

She is wearing a gorgeous blue dress. He is wearing a blue tie to match her dress. She led the way and picked up their table number. She had a ring on her finger. She is at a wedding with her fiancee'. He didn't seem too happy to be at this wedding, but he didn't seem angry either. They both sat at their table, right next to mine. They smiled at me and I waved back. She asked him to take pictures and he complied. She checked the mirror once, fixed her hair, put on lip stick and posed for the camera. He waited, not saying a word. She stood and he flashed one shot. She asked for another. He took another picture. This time she wanted him to be in the picture as well. She asked her sister to take the picture. Her sister took a picture of her and her fiancee'. He smiled, but just for the camera.

They sat back down. They were involved in a regular conversation, nothing that demonstrated huge facial expressions. She seemed happy to be at a wedding, although he was nonchalant. They ate their first entree, salad. No one talked. They has their second entree, crab cakes. No one talked. Finally the steak arrived. They both looked at their meat and cut their first piece. She looked at her fiancee' and asked if he was satisfied with his well done piece. Hers was medium rare and she offered to trade it if that would please him. He took her up on her offer and enjoyed the idea of eating a medium-rare juicy steak.

They both cleaned up their plates, and it was ready to dance. The music began to pick up its pace and she asked him to dance. He was very compliant. He got up and followed her to the dance floor. They danced to a few upbeat songs then ended with a slow dance. He gave her the look that signified he was done dancing. He went to sit down next to her sister as she kept dancing with the other girls on the dance floor. She beckoned him from the dance floor to come back, and he just shook his head and blew her a kiss. She continued dancing and they were apart for about fifteen minutes. He watched her while she danced in a crowd. She was getting along with everyone until she decided to walk back to her fiancee. They both went outside for a little air. They came in five minutes after, put their coats on and said goodbye to everyone. It was only 12:00, but they left arm in arm hugging.

A man follows the cultural norm by placing a ring on a woman's finger. By the looks of her actions, she is also following a norm by willing to tender to her fiancee's needs. She portrays this by putting her preference secondary to his needs, and willing to offer her steak to him in order to please him. I find this act to be a part of a woman's intuition, but Simone de Beauvoir would say that "Man can think of himself without woman. She can not think of herself without man" (Beauvoir 4). Beauvoir would tell her to keep her steak instead of making him feel like the essential, the "Absolute."

Furthermore, on the radical side, the man trusts his wife enough to let her dance with a large crowd. In the middle eastern tradition, this dancing is considered radical, because women are restricted from many things. Of course, the term radical changes when used in different context. As Derrida says, the signifier and signified are arbitrary and "meaning can never be fixed" (Barker 18). The context changes between different people or cultures around the world. The idea of allowing a woman to freely dance might be radical in one culture, but completely normative in another.

Capitalism plays a great role in the relationship between this engaged couple. Here we have two couples, introduced by the very clothing they are wearing. Her hair is done by a hair dresser, her make-up by a make-up artist, her ring purchased from a jeweler, and so on and so forth. Are they really in love? Do they have anything to talk about other then the steak? The only time there was real interaction was when they were dancing. Other then that there's even an artificiality in the idea of taking pictures to capture a moment in time that was neither filled with sincere laughter, nor complete pleasure. Their appearance-artificially created by material- produces this happy image that outsiders view.

In addition, the "happy couple" facade is an example of identity constantly changing. Barker writes, "We live our lives in the context of social relationships with others" (Barker 218). The man does not look like he wants to be at the wedding. She needs to put on a pretty face for the both of them. There are different roles being played: the happy couple, the fun couple, the humble wife, the permissive husband, and the dancing pair. Everyone at a wedding constructs a self that will be accepted and acknowledged by the guests around them. Not only does a bride have to look perfect, everyone does. Everyone at a wedding is a composite of many exterior things. Like Michel Foucault's "Panopticon," guests at a wedding know that everyone's eyes are on each other, therefore they all know to be on their best behavior!

Barker, Chris. Cultural Studies Theory and Practice. 3rd ed. London: Sage Publications, 2008.Print.

Beauvoir, Simone de. The Second Sex: Woman as Other. 1949.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

The Fear You Won't Fall


"Part of the beauty of falling in love is the fear you won't fall." Women are not quickly swayed by a man's courtly love anymore. As a matter of fact, does courtly love even exist? What happened to wooing a woman into falling madly in love? I guess this is not medieval times, but something about the idea of courtly romance sounds unfamiliar and inviting.

Today most men and women fear love's ambiguity. Men are more interested in seeming to be single and uninterested than actually committing and admitting to themselves that they love someone. Women, aware of men's unstableness, do not want to allow themselves to fall head over heals with the fear that men will not fall back. I believe this is what causes a division in women who still traditionally choose to rely on a man's love and those who toughen up, take the man's position and are able to make the calls for themselves.

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Love is..."wholly cultural? "

The question of identity arises yet again. Do we construct our own identity or are we biologically bestowed with a gift of a truly unique self? Chris Barker writes, "Identity concerns both self-identity and social identity. It is about the personal and the social. It is about the ourselves and our relations with others" (245). I believe that as a toddler we develop a character based on our relations with our parents. Once the school age begins, it is no longer mommy and me for the child, a child is now placed in an unfamiliar environment. He/she needs to adapt to unexplored people and peers. With this sudden unfamiliar placement, a child develops a character that is needed to assimilate in this new social surrounding. Children then incorporate their learned behaviors at home, with their teacher's newly taught principles at school.
This process of identifying one's self in relation to others is a continuous cycle. As children become teens, they begin to question set disciplines at home and in school. Rather than abide to the rules of authority, teenagers begin to find better common ground with friends. As teenagers get nearer to becoming adolescents there is a clearer line between right and wrong. Like Barker states, "we live our lives in the context of social relationships with others" (218). This is how we grow and develop. We absorb everything we learn from our parents, teachers and peers.
The same way we learn about life through a process of identifying ourselves with others, we learn about love. We learn how to love a significant other due to our past experiences with love. We grow to love our parents, our friends, our relatives, siblings, pets, etc. Similarly, we love others the way we have been accustomed to being loved. Is love "wholly cultural?" I believe we construct our idea of what love is is based on culture. Culture includes pop culture, foreign cultures, the culture your parents, friends and instructors construct.
Between the age of 1 to 9, love is our parents; the love we see our parents share with one another and the love they feel towards us. Between the ages of 10 to 14, love is our friends. We love our friends an their acceptance of us is highly important. Between the ages of 15 and 20 we have found our one true love. He is "Mr. Right" and no one can come between this "undying love." As we get older, the idea of love turns from "my heart just skipped two beats," to " he makes me feel safe and truly appreciated."
Love is a part of our identity. The truth is, if one's identity becomes accustomed to new ideas and changing cultures, their previously constructed idea of love might change too. Love and identity go hand in hand. Both are infinite and unstable. There is no use in trying to figure it out. There is more use in aiming to be the best you can be... being true to yourself and others.
If it is true to you, it will be true to those around you. -T.K.E


Barker, Chris. Cultural Studies Theory and Practice. 3rd ed. London: Sage Publications, 2008.

Monday, August 30, 2010

"The Radical Romance"

What is Love?

In my opinion...

Love is an unexplainable emotion. When feelings are so heightened, lovers feel obligated to name it something other than "like." One feels ready to name it "love" and take that leap of faith into the Odyssey, without knowing the ending to his/her journey. Will they have a tragic or fairytale ending?
Love is easily formed and easily broken. Unfortunately, the infatuation at the base of love quickly dies. What lasts is a mutual understanding and respect two lovers establish with one another after the initial utopian stages are over.


We all want to be loved. How can we be sure who the right one is?

-T. K.E.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

We are all "Helga Cranes"

Tara Ekmekci

Prof. Wexler

English 436

14 August 2010

We are all "Helga Cranes"

Everyone compared to a specific Subject is considered to be the “other subject”. The Subject can be one person, a group of people, or a whole race. The Subject compares itself to the “other subject” who can also be a person, group, or race. In this essay the dominant Subjects are the Western hegemonic ideals, the majority who follow these ideals and the imperialized English speaking culture. The “other subjects” are the minority, the oppressed, the subjugated, the marginalized, and silenced voices who are “… a class of colonial subjects often burdened by a double consciousness and by divided loyalties” (Leitch 28). The minority ethnic groups in North America include Africans, Asians, Native people, Hispanics and Middle Easterners. Each possesses their separate values, cultures, customs, habits, and languages. As major changes begin to take place in 20th century United States, many minority groups are still unable to break through the stereotypes that type-cast their roles in society.

One such type-casted group in American society are the African Americans. During the Harlem Renaissance there were competing notions of black identity. The New Negro concept at the heart of this movement is the key to reading Nella Larsen’s, “Quicksand.” Larsen has a more complicated picture of the New Negro. The protagonist in the story, Helga Crane, is constantly fleeing from restrictive notions of identity in a time when all African Americans unconsciously “… participate[d] in the process of carrying the traumatic past forward into the future…” (Stringer 3). Are the identifications of the Old Negro—before the Reconstruction — completely buried six feet under? The New Negro, epitomized by the protagonist, Helga Crane, in Larsen’s “Quicksand,” is struggling, but unable to identify herself with Alain Locke’s new modernized, self-dependent African American self.

Following the end of the reconstruction African Americans were magnetically pulled toward the Northern urban areas due to an increase in work production. After United States entered World War I in 1917, there were industrial vacancies on account of white soldiers who had gone to fight the war. African Americans started to fill these vacancies as they began migrating North to New York City, specifically Harlem. There was a new generation of African Americans who were a product of the great migration and civil war period. There was the belief that the New Negro would emerge when slavery was abolished. The New Negro represented a triumph of ideals and new identity that were in the making a hundred years before.

Helga Crane is the “product” of an African American father and white mother. Immediately this is crucial in understanding her ambiguity towards belonging to both colored spectrums of the American race. Nella Larsen begins “Quicksand” with the protagonist, Helga Crane, sitting in her room in Naxos. Helga is a teacher in Naxos “… at the finest school for Negroes anywhere in the country, north or south…”(Larsen 1087). She is in her room because she refuses to attend work. Helga dislikes her work environment, because she doesn’t accept complying to an unreciprocated relationship with an educational institution that gives nothing in return. She feels like an insignificant part in a factory, producing Naxos products¾the products being African American students abiding to white hegemonic ideals. Booker T. Washington created this school for all African Americans to gain education, but the only thing Helga sees are white views imposed upon them all. She dislikes feeling implicated in a system breeding and producing inequality. Larsen describes Helga’s sensitivities toward Naxos by writing, “The South. Naxos. Negro education. Suddenly she hated them all. Strange, too, for this was the thing which she had ardently desired to share in, to be part of this monument to one man’s genius and vision.” (Larsen 1088) She does not find satisfaction in Naxos any more. She is ready to hastily leave it all behind, and begin a new hopeful journey of identifying with less conformed surroundings.

Nella Larsen immediately depicts an African American woman who is unhappy with the environment she is living in. While the concept of freedom was still expanding, attending a university, or holding a teacher’s position was an extreme luxury for African Americans in the 1920s. It is interesting to understand the reasons behind Nella Larsen’s motifs of creating a character like Helga Crane. Helga’s identity is complicated. In the first three pages, she refuses to identify herself with the people of Naxos, because “This great community, she thought, was no longer a school. It had grown into a machine” (Larsen 1089). It is evident that Helga holds strong feelings apropos denying individualism and new innovations.

Alain Locke was a very influential writer during the Harlem Renaissance. He wrote “The New Negro,” describing what he thought would be the new spirit among black Americans. Helga Crane, is one of the many ignored voices that Alain Locke leaves out while talking about a developing definition of the African American race. For Locke, the Old Negro is humble, submissive, and self-deprecating. He defines the New Negro as an African American who has a sense of self-respect, self-reliance, independence and Americanism. Locke says, “…the Old Negro had long become more of a myth than a man. The Old Negro, we must remember, was a creature of moral debate and historical controversy” (Locke 984). Helga Crane is still a “creature of moral debate and historical controversy.” (Locke 984). Helga flees from Naxos¾an institution which produces and feeds New Negroes¾because she rejects conforming to the New Negro ideals. In her eyes, the larger implications the authorities running Naxos have is to produce Naxos products still confined to belong to the hierarchy of color.

Alain Locke would have a hard time understanding the complex psyche behind Helga Crane’s constant dissatisfaction in her environment. Locke believes that by determination African Americans as a nationalistic race can come together and leave behind the repressed oppressions of the past. Even though Helga is determined to identify with certain groups, she is unable to define herself with the Old Negro or New Negro characteristics. She rejects the New Negro development in Naxos, and ends up in Harlem. Harlem is also the focal point of development for the New Negro concept. Helga arrives in Harlem searching for her mother’s brother, Uncle Peter. Her uncle’s new wife opens the door to their home, and tells Helga that she is not welcome in their house. Larsen writes that “[Helga] saw herself for an obscene sore in all their lives, at all costs to be hidden” (Larsen 1103). Helga had confidence in her uncle, and now he was just another individual who she was unable to form a relationship with. She was neither fully black, nor fully white, but her skin color automatically determined the perception that every white American had of her. Helga Crane had the hue of an African American, but knew that “She didn’t, in spite of her racial markings, belong to these dark segregated people” (Larsen 1119). She knew she had to leave Harlem to a place where her color played no role in her social casting.

Helga is only able to find contentment in isolation, because she is unable to get “… past controversy… and settle down to a realistic facing of facts” (Locke 986). Locke also argues that the African American is “taking a flight” from “medieval America to modern” (Locke 986). Helga Crane is fleeing from both worlds. Locke cannot universalize the experience of all African Americans to his concept of the New Negro. Helga does not perfectly fit into Locke’s description, because her psychology is too complex. Helga decides to leave Harlem to live with her Aunt Katrina in Denmark, Copenhagen.

Helga is on a quest of leaving behind yet another society she is unable to belong too. Her optimism and faith in assimilating to this new land, Copenhagen, has summited as Larsen emphasizes that “[Helga] liked it, this new life. For a time it blotted from her mind all else” (Larsen 1126). She finally receives the attention she is craving in Copenhagen, but instead of being objectified as a worker, like in Harlem and Naxos, she is objectified as merely an icon of beauty. One of the first things Helga’s aunt tells her is that, “You must have bright things to set off the color of your lovely brown skin. Striking things, exotic things. You must make an impression” (Larsen 1126) For the first time in her life she no longer had to be the one looking after her personal interests. Her Aunt Katrina took it upon herself to tend to Helga’s needs. This was new to Helga. It seemed ideal at first, but sooner or later she begins to realize that in “[Copenhagen] she was, a curiosity, a stunt, at which people came and gazed” (Larsen 1129). Helga Crane is unable to identify herself as an adorned decoration. Her life in Copenhagen meant little to her after two years of serving only one purpose¾a perfect image to be sold to the highest bidder.

Helga’s struggles with identity are more complicated than the notions of W.E.B. Dubois’s double consciousness, because Helga does not only define herself through her eyes, and eyes of white Americans. She tries seeing herself through the eyes of African Americans in Harlem, African Americans in Naxos, the society in Copenhagen, Anne, Aunt Katrina, and all her possible lovers. Larsen reminds us that “She could neither conform, nor be happy in her unconformity” (Larsen 1091). She suffers from competing notions of black identity deeper than double consciousness. When she looks in the mirror, there’s a reflection of the New Negro appearance she tries conforming to, but she constantly sees herself craving for the Old Negro traditions. Each time she rejects submission, she yearns for tradition and each time she rejects tradition she temporarily accepts conforming to the new territory she is in. As time passes, Helga does not “… see the repudiation of social dependence, and then the gradual recovery of hyper-sensitiveness and ‘touchy nerves’…and finally the rise from social disillusionment to race pride…” (Locke 989). Helga is not a product of the New Negro individual who is able to achieve complete independence from notions of African American consciousness, through self-determination. She did not have Locke’s view of the African Americans thriving during the Harlem Renaissance in America. Helga vocalizes her resentment for America by emphasizing, “Go back to America, where they hated Negroes! To America, where Negroes were not people. To America, where Negroes were allowed to be beggars only, of life, of happiness, of security” (Larsen 1135).

Before leaving Copenhagen for America, Helga refuses Axel Olsen’s hand for marriage. He hands her a gift, a self-portrait of Helga. She automatically denies any form of resemblance with the portrait. The picture symbolizes a sensual depiction of Helga. She calls it a “tragedy” foreshadowing the fate she put out for herself ever since the beginning of the story. Dorothy stringer writes how, “Helga describes the resemblance, not in terms of greater or lesser artistic skill… It was not, she says, ‘herself’; she is disappointed and contemptuous because the painting is not ‘herself’…reveals that Helga’s only desire is for ‘herself’” (Stringer 76). She could not see herself in the painting, because she did not have a grasp of her own perception of herself. Helga has the tendency of rejecting everything old and new, therefore she will certainly deny this sensual depiction of herself.

After rejecting Copenhagen, Helga has no choice but to return to America for the second time. In America, Helga chooses to take a different route, and marries Reverend Mr. Pleasant Green. She moves to the cores of the South, and after a few years of working on a farm and producing five children, she once again resents her life of labor and religion. Larsen states that “From the prejudiced restrictions of the New World to the easy formality of the Old, from the pale calm of Copenhagen to the colorful lure of Harlem” (Larsen 1144). Helga is not able to find cheerfulness. Through failed experiences of molding into the New Negro, her final choice is to move South, a place which represents all the Old Negro depictions, and none of the New Negro ideals. The only thing Helga achieves through her indecisive actions is moving backwards. She was not content with having the best of both worlds, therefore she is now stuck in the antiquated word in the South.

While trying to construct her own definition of the New Negro individual, she finds herself striving for an unattainable black and white ideal self that she cannot fulfill. Stringer writes “[Helga] isn’t there; you cant see her. She is the only one to see herself…” (Stringer 76). Her identifications with the Old Negro attributes were never buried. Her insecurities about being both black and white seizes her from moving forward and allowing herself to move with the flow of society.

Helga tries to be a feminist, a Marxist and a perfect example of an African American unable to naturally adapt to white values, completely reject them, or even blend into them. Simone de Beauvoir, a French 20th century feminist emphasized the lack of effort put by women as whole to stray away from the title of the “other.” For Beauvoir, women are constantly looked as the “other,” next to men. Men are the “absolute,” the “supreme” and Beauvoir aimed to eliminate the unequal relationship between men and women.

In Nella Larsen’s, Quicksand, Helga is a tragic character who belongs to the African American race that was used, tortured, and reduced to mere commodity. On top of coping with repressed scars from the past, she is also an example of a woman unable to find herself in a male dominated Western society. Beauvoir would definitely be proud of Helga’s choice of leaving Copenhagen, a place that expected her to play that role of a desirable woman waiting for a man to make her his ornament. The idea of wearing the best dresses and owning the most expensive accessories falls under the implications of capitalism and the ways in which owning the grandest and greatest of products can make you presentable for the male species who will carefully choose purchase and own you as well!

In her travels to Copenhagen she rejected to mold into societies pressure of the perfect adorable housewife, but somewhere along the way Helga was not able to stand her own ground. She fell apart and resorted to needing a male to be the steady rock in her life. When she chose to marry the Reverend and move South, she took the role of the housewife she rejected to be a part of in Copenhagen. Her inferiority complex definitely took over and she placed herself in a life she never dreamt of.

Gloria Anzaldua, a Mexican American writer, writes about the differences of multicultural identity portraying the “Helga Cranes” still eminent in the modern world today. She writes to reach out to the suppressed Spanish voices in America, but her writing echoes all the voices of marginalized ethnic groups. Anzaldua says “culture’ is a ‘story to explain the world and our participation in it, a … value system with images and symbols to connect us to each other and to the planets” (Anzaldua 2096). In a world where “the dominant white culture is killing us slowly with its ignorance” (Anzaldua 2097), hyphenated Americans should begin by wanting to preserve their own culture and then working to remind all “Helga Cranes” that with unity and compliance hybrid identities can coexist in a dominating white society.

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